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Doreen

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Couldn’t find the thread where we had originally discussed this but now it’s mom’s turn. After dad died she insisted on staying alone in the house. My sister found her today confused. Wants to go home. Left a pan cooking on the stove so long there was no water left and utensil was melting. I had to insist that I’m the nurse and she had to go to the ER. Took 2 sisters to get her there. Almost looks like she had a stroke. Waiting now for the exam results.

did I say life sucks? 
 

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Sorry to hear that your mother was in this dangerous situation.

Her behavior could also be caused by a UTI.

UTI's affect the elderly in a much more severe manner than in younger people, and unfortunately, the antibiotics used to treat UTI's can cause agitation and odd behaviors.

So glad your sister got there in time to prevent a house fire.

Time for some changes for Mom's personal safety.

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Quick update. Mom had a massive stroke. Still really confused. Hallucinating. Talking to dad. Uh huh. My deceased dad. Won’t eat or drink. Looking at rehab but I don’t see her getting much better. My sibs remain in denial. However,I am her HCP so I have final say. 
we’ll see 

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Thanks everybody. Mom’s in rehab. Not my first choice but the only facility that had a bed and takes her insurance. I go every morning and stay thru lunch. It’s really tiring. She is so confused it’s just like when I was working full time! I used to be the Director of Nursing for a dementia facility so I speak dementia pretty well but my sisters leave crying it’s so draining. 

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Confusion seems to be getting worse. Hallucinations worse. Won’t eat. Doesn’t remember dad died and gets pissed cuz he hasn’t been to visit her. No way she’s going to be able to go home or even to one our homes. Not safe. 
they invoked her HCP- me- and we’re trying to got POA or conservatorship so we can access her bank accounts. There will be a car and house to deal with.
Right now I’m just trying to deal with one day at a time. 

Thanks for asking. Keep posting guys. I love this site. 

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A general note to members.

Check on your folks and make certain that their estate and health care directives are in place and up to date.  Know their retirement managers and their bankers.

Of course things vary from state to state, but be certain they have a Power of Attorney and Health Care Power of Attorney in place.

Also, be aware of their medical team and make certain that your beloved elder is keeping to their scheduled appointments, and as they age, dental appointments are as important as PCP appointments. 

❤️

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So…. No real improvement with mom. We have the lawyer coming tomorrow to get a POA in place. She will need to be long term care. Then,

I contacted my old job. They still want me back so mom and me go as a package deal. I’ll start full time Monday and as soon as it can be arranged mom will follow. They have a good room for her and it’s near my office. I’m spending every morning with her now anyway so this will be good. 

of course my family thinks I’m crazy since I’m supposed to be retired but honestly I’m looking forward to getting out of this house!

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