marvin Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I thought that I'd let people know that Jeff Harris' mom passed away on the weekend. Jeff's a great guy, and an afficianado of Pop Music. We pray for him and his family during this time. God bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LC Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Jeff, best wishes to you and your family at what must be a very difficult time. Prayers and positive thoughts your way.Best,Larry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackhawkpat Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Jeff:So sorry to hear the news. You are in both my prayers and thoughts.Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollies65 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Does Jeff post here? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marvin Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Does Jeff post here? Yes he does - now and then. He's member #186, I believe. Recently posted on the Andrew Gold "Beatles" thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jerry Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Does Jeff post here? http://www.ericcarmen.com/scripts/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_profile;u=00000186 To Jeff, my condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollies65 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Sorry to hear about your mom Jeff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy McLintock Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 EEeek. Yuck. Not a time of year to have a family member pass, of course no time is good. Sorry to hear about your mom, Jeff. You are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mannoman Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Oh my. So sorry to hear this, Jeff. My condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirk Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Jeff, so sorry to hear about your mom. Kirk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirk Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I've met Jeff at the Raspberries concerts in L.A., and we were at Poptopia when Popdude was playing. Some of you may remember that Jeff deals in high-end watches. Really a nice guy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 My Condolences to you Jeff... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ecstasy Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 My sincerest condolences, Jeff, with prayers for peace and comfort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Hey, of course I post there!! But, I do read more than I post ...Thanks a lot for all your kind words ... you guys are really great ....She was an amazing woman, and will be missed by many people. She passed from (the non smoking type) lung cancer - but only in the last 2 days did she suffer. And, it was incredibly heart wrentching for us - She's in peace now.She was a model and actress in Hollywood in the 50's. She did many bit parts, but, did a REALLY bad sci-fi film, a la Ed Wood, that was shelved in 1957, and only picked up and bought by the Sci Fi spoof show "Mystery Science Theater 3000" 35 years later. She had told me aobut this film all my life, but, only in 1993, did I get to see it. A clip from youtube is here (well, the whole film is, but, it's split up, since it's youtube) - she's the blonde ...I'm proud that IMDb rates it as one of the worst films ever !! (Hey, it's the best and worst that get noticed in life, right?? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q_TL02L_nE&feature=related G-d bless you all .... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirk Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Jeff, some of us have home movies to remember...Look what you get Thanks for sharing that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missy Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Jeff, my prayers and condolences go out to you. Nothing is more dear than a mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbB Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Jeff, my sincere sympathy on the loss of your mother, but how wonderful you have such great memories of her! Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollies65 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Gotta tell ya Jeff...your mom was a looker! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Gotta tell ya Jeff...your mom was a looker! I remember as a kid, living in Manhattan, men just stopping my mom in the street to tell her how beautiful she was ...I guess I must have grabbed her genetic backwash when my egg was fertilized Thanks again for everybodys wishes ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 By the way, if any good came from this situation, I learned a very important lesson, which, I probably (hopefully) won't have to address again, but, maybe others can learn from it ...My mom in fact, to the end, was a very vein woman, as she did obtain her greatest advantages of life based on her looks. That being said, she was very much in denial of her cancer and impending death, because that affected her vanity. She even rubbed face moisterizing cream every day, virtually to the end, with shaking hands. She even had told the guy she was seeing, she was 60, when in fact she was 76. When we spoke, he said, it's so sad she contracted this disease at such a young age of 60!! Anyway, that's who she was ...The way I dealt with it, was, I played into her denial, while, at the same time, making more pragmatic decisions for her, without consulting her.After she was in the Hospital, and it was obvious she couldn't be cared for properly at home any more, even with a private nurse, she was sent to a Nursing Home. I got her in the best one in Manhattan. It is also a physical rehabiliation facility, which, technically, was why she was admitted. Even to her friends, she wouldn't call the place a Nursing Home, she kept referring to it as a rehab center, because it sounded better.However, when it came time to deal with the fact that Chemotherapy was doing her no good, and things were bleak, they strongly suggested we put her in a Hospice. She vehemntly denied wanting to go to a Hospice, as, she kept feeling like something would turn around, and she would get better - and of course, Hospice means death. Of course, I too didn't want to throw in the towel, at least emotionally, and, I figured the Nursing Home has decent enough care, so, I repsected her wish.Long story short, 4 days before the end, in 5 minutes, she went from somewhat talkative and alert, to pretty much comatose. It was only then I realized that the Nursing Home did not have the proper facilities to attend to a comatose patient. They couldn't administer IV. They had no 24 hour on call Doctor, only one that came once a day. The nurses were limited in scope of knowledge. They said normally, in cases like this, they send the patient to the Hospital. However, because she was in such great, agonizing pain, comfort was paramount, as we knew she didn't have too much time left, and, to move her to a Hospital, would most likely cause her inhumane pain. Even with a huge amount of Morphine, she was still moaning in pain. It was a very difficult moment - I was stuck. I had no direction to go. Usually, I get what I want with money - money is not an object for me - but, no money could buy what I needed. I couldn't move her, yet, they didn't have the facilities, nor owuld they allow me to bring in a private Doctor or IV specialist, or anyone, as only one Doctor was authorized to give medical orders at that facility, and, no outside medical help could do anything in the home, for their insurance reasons. It took FIVE HOURS for the Doctor to get to the Nursing Home, to up her dosage of Morphine. So, whereas she only suffered for a few short days, she would have experienced far less pain in a Hospice.The lesson here? No matter how long before you feel your loved one will die from a painful disease like cancer, if its deemed terminal, make sure they go to a Hospice - whther they are at home, or a Nursing Home. They can do everything a Hospital can do, and more, in a much more comfy atmosphere.It really irked me to see that this Nursing Home, would not employ 2 or 3 full time Doctors, to have one on shift 24/7 - they contract the ones from NY Hospital, which is across the street. I know it's expensive to run a Home like this, but, this paticular Home takes in over $30 MILLION a year in revenue for their care. They couldn't spend $600,000 on 3 ultra competent Doctors? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sterling Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Jeff,My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.Phil Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susana Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Thanks for sharing, Jeff. My thoughts and prayers are with you.S* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Jeff-So sorry about your mom. Take care of your self. Thanks for posting the video. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollies65 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Wow. I think you communicated your point pretty well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Kiwi Connection Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Jeff, we are saddened to hear of your loss. You and all your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Kiwi and Muzza. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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