darlene Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 Dear TT, You're over the worst of it, and believe truly that better things are coming in your future. If you can weather this (and you have), you can live through *anything*! I'm a true believer in second chances (even third, sometimes!) and if you doubt second chances, remember what happened with Raspberries in 2004!You're all primed and ready to go for the very best part of your life, and we're here for you, and here WITH you! We love you for sure, so what else do you need?! Roll with it for now and plan for the best part--the rest of your NEW life! --Love, Darlene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chris hess Posted June 26, 2008 Share Posted June 26, 2008 darlene said it best,as she always does..you are over the worst of it..remember that...lol,chris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMMY TUNES Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 Thanks friends.Unfortunately it ain't oner till it's over. On 5 pills for blood pressure. It's lower but not low enough. The divorce didn't end anything just gave her alimony. I can't and won't list all of the things she's done to me just since the divorce. But this Thursday is a crucial day. Please pray for me and my children.Love, Tommy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ira Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I'm in your corner Tommy.Even without knowing the facts...You're right...She's wrong.I Has Spoken!You're a great,compassionate guy!Your pal-Ira. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollies65 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Hang in there...at this point [i know all about how you most likely got clobbered $$$ wise] it's all about the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Hey, I went through two break-ups and survived. You can,too. And I get along better with my second former than I do with the first. We're devoted to the children and have a common sense of humour.Have someone remind her that it's the CHILDREN that matter the most, and they deserve the love of both parents.My second former will even drive me to the bank if need be, and I have bought him and the children things they need even if I get less Disability money than he does.Remember, time wounds all heels. In other words, what goes around comes around. People DO begin to feel guilty.I also forgave my first ex because he isn't quite right in the bean. His Mom looks after our son. A deal I made with lawyers.Kids also figure things out after about age 16.Wishing you well, and try some relaxation exercises. They help me.Everyone here is in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boopell Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 We're behind you TT--take care of yourself!Prettymom--it's much better when everyone can get along-especially when kids are involved. I've been divorced twice and this is my last (no matter what)marriage. My first ex is a teacher and my second is a carpenter/builder. My first still owns the house I live in so he pays for all major repairs and I take care of everything else. Guess who he hires...yep, my second ex. When we re-roofed the house my 2 ex's and my husband did it. When my dad passed away they were all standing around talking at his funeral. My dad always kept beer for my first, Mello Yello for my second and Pepsi for my husband because any of them could show up at any time and sometimes all at once.My lawyer is from Ohio and has practiced in several different places. He told us that divorces in this area are really easy because by the time the clients get around to hiring a lawyer they've already divided the property, one of them has already moved to another home and child custody/visitation has been worked out. He's there for the paper work. He said he'd never experienced anything like that anywhere else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I know what you mean. Up here, now we're going for mediation instead of litigation. That only means doing all agreements outside of the courtroom and having the papers stamped. Visitation and custody is made much easier, and my second former even took me for a coffee after our final mediation session. How cool is that?(He still says, "You and your Raspberries", though! Sacrilege!)I was never married, actually. I asked God to forgive me, though, so I was blessed with a better second former partner! He even fixes my computer, and buys new parts with the money I give him since I can't travel very far outside of my agoraphobic "safe zone"!And guess who helped me find my bank card and keys when I misplaced them in my new hellhole? Yeppers.Seriously, my first ex is mentally ill, and his parents have even told me that. I wish TT all the love and hope in the world. He sounds like a real gem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bessieboo Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I have no words of wisdom and I know nothing about how this divorce has impacted your life. I realizes you will likely hear the same things over and over again.I hope you know how much we care about you, I miss seeing you here. I am so much more sad knowing you are having a bad time in your life.You are loved, even when you don't feel it.TT I am praying for you and your childrenBethBTW - I do know a Young Hot Latin wealthy widow when you are ready Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muzza Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Three words my Friend..... Praying for you Muzza Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Billy K. Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 I'm a little late in getting to you on this, Tommy, but I know exactly how you feel. Had the issues with the house and the ex-girlfriend, and it took a lot out of me--financially, physically, and mentally. Fortunately, I've had no problems with blood pressure, but I get tense on occasion--even to this day---as a result.My prayers are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMMY TUNES Posted July 1, 2008 Author Share Posted July 1, 2008 I have no words of wisdom and I know nothing about how this divorce has impacted your life. I realizes you will likely hear the same things over and over again.I hope you know how much we care about you, I miss seeing you here. I am so much more sad knowing you are having a bad time in your life.You are loved, even when you don't feel it.TT I am praying for you and your childrenBethBTW - I do know a Young Hot Latin wealthy widow when you are ready ...and she lives in NJ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollies65 Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 Hey pal, hope everything is working out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMMY TUNES Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 LIFE GETS BETTER EVERY DAY EXCEPT THE BLOOD PRESSURE IS STILL HIGH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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