Miriam-I am so sorry for your mother's death. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Remember how she lived, not how she died. I lost my mom last year and I miss her every day, so I can feel your pain. I'm glad your family was together, it's sad that there was no agreement in with her arrangements. Luckily, my parents had preplanned some of it, so we didn't have that kind of problem (I have 7 brothers and sister, so there were plenty of voices to be heard.) Take care of yourself and give yourself time and permission to grieve.